The Rules of Love
A personal code for happier, more fulfilling relationshipsRichard Templar
Nov 2008, Paperback, 240 pagesISBN13: 9780273720256
ISBN10: 0273720252
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Check out the new edition of The Rules of Love (9781447929505, available now and updated with seven brand new Rules to help you find even greater success in your relationships.
Love matters. Whether it’s the romantic kind or the emotional bond between you and family or friends. Indeed latest research suggests that those who love and are loved are significantly more likely to be alive in 10 years time than those without love in their lives. Love makes us happy, and the happier we are, the longer it seems we tend to live.
But it isn’t always easy to love and be loved. Love is also complicated. Relationships are invariably complex and they need to be attended to, nurtured, worked at, and invested in. It’s all too easy to neglect relationships – often without realising it – and this benign neglect leaves you one day wondering why this special relationship has crumbled, unravelled, waned or lost its sparkle. Forming good relationships isn’t easy either. Same sex relationships can be tricky enough (mothers and daughters, brothers and brothers) but when it’s the opposite sex – especially boyfriend/girlfriend) you have the added complication that the other person is wired completely differently and may see things in completely different ways.
If you study people who are so good at relationships you discover it’s not about their personality or gender or how self sacrificing they are. Those who are great in all relationships usually do have to work at it – the secret is that they know exactly where to put their efforts. They know The Rules of Love. In this book these Rules are revealed, so you too can benefit from the simple principles of forming and sustaining strong, enduring and ultimately, life enhancing relationships.
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Introduction
Rules for Finding Love
1. Be yourself
2. Get over it before you get on with it
3. You wont be happy with a partner until you can be happy on your own
4. Youll know them when you meet them
5. Choose someone who makes you laugh
6. Being less than a hundred percent attractive is a great filter
7. Dont keep making the same mistakes
8. Certain people are off limits (you know who they are)
9. You cant change people
10. Relationships arent about sex
11. Get to know someone through all the seasons before making any major decisions
12. Dont stay with someone who doesnt care
13. If you cant trust them, you havent got a relationship
14. Be honest (while you still have the chance)
15. Dont play games
16. Dont tar new partners with old brushes
17. Check you both have the same shared goals
18. You cant make someone love you
19. Be cruel to be kind
Relationship Rules
20. Be nice
21. Be together because you want to, not because you need to
22. Allow your partner the space to be themselves
23. Look to your own faults
24. Be honourable
25. Put each other first
26. Recognize the signs
27. Be a hero or a heroine
28. Accept the differences, embrace what you have in common
29. Dont belittle your partner
30. You want to do what?
31. Let not the sun go down upon your wrath
32. Be the first to say sorry
33. Houston, we have a problem
34. Dont put them on a pedestal and expect them to stay there
35. Know when to listen and when to act
36. Never stop trying to be attractive
37. If you can say something nice, do
38. Dont try to be their parent
39. Be part of their life
40. If little things annoy you, say so with humour
41. Go that extra step in trying to please them
42. Make sure your partner is always pleased to see you
43. Dont dump responsibility on your partner
44. Let them know if you dont like their friends
45. Jealousy is your stuff, not theirs
46. Your partner is more important than your kids
47. Make time for romance
48. Have a passion for your life together
49. Share the workload
50. Trust the other one to do the job
51. Dont be a nag
52. Make sure your love making is making love
53. Dont control them
54. Listen to what theyre not saying
55. Most everyday arguments are about something else
56. Respect privacy
57. Treat your partner better than your best friend
58. Dont be offended if they want some space
59. Men like flowers too
60. Keep your finances separate
61. Contentment is a high aim
62. Be generous to each other financially
63. You make a choice every day
64. Dont be a martyr
65. You dont both have to have the same rules
66. Put yourself in their shoes
67. In-laws are part of the package
68. Keep talking
Rules for Parting
69. Listen to your own internal voice
70. Recognize that it takes two
71. Keep the moral high ground
72. Dont keep raking it over
73. Leave the kids out of it
Family Rules
74. Dont blame your parents
75. Dont let your parents control your feelings
76. Your children come before you
77. Nothing is worth falling out over
78. Treat them the way you believe is right, no matter how they treat you
79. Dont pressurize your family just because you can
80. Never be too busy for loved ones
81. Your children need to fall out with you to leave home
82. They dont have to be the same as you
83. Theres always stuff with siblings
84. Let go of your role
Friendship Rules
85. There are no rules
86. Your best friend was once a stranger
87. Only have people in your life who, on balance, make it better not worse
88. If youre going to be a friend, be a good friend
89. Never give advice
90. Find friends who love the truth
91. Never lend money unless youre prepared to write it off
92. If you dont like their partner, tough
93. When one finger points forwards, three point back
94. Friendships change
95. Know when to let go
96. Bitterness helps no one
Rules for Everyone
97. Guilt is a selfish emotion
98. Love equals time
99. The more you put out, the more you get back
100. Other people are where its at
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Richard Templar is the author of the international bestselling Rules books. Over 2 million people around the world have enjoyed and now play by Richard Templar's Rules.
The complete list of titles is as follows: Rules of Life, Rules of Work, Rules of Management, Rules of Wealth, Rules of Parenting and Rules of Love.
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